Who apologizes first in a relationship, and why is that something we should discourse?
Disagreements happen in every kind of relationship, and most of the cases, they end up with a fight.
After a fight, some people find it hard to apologize even if they know it was their fault.
Relationships go through many stages during the years, forgiving and knowing when and how to apologize is one of them.
Who apologizes first in a relationship?
In typical cases, the person who apologizes is the one that caused the trouble in the first place. Whatever the cause of the fight, or fault he or she made, no matter their pride, whoever made the mistake that one has to apologize.
However, there are cases, and we all know a lot of them who apologize for their partner’s fault, to calm the situation.
As human beings, it is important to admit when it is our fault and to learn how to apologize. Accepting that every single one of us can make mistakes and asking for forgiveness is the best way of showing that it is okay to make mistakes as long as we understand the harm we have done, and try to fix it.
In a relationship, depending on the circumstances, mistakes happen very often. By “mistakes,” we are referring to the things or sayings we do and say toward our partner without thinking. Mistakes that can hurt another one but not intentionally can become a routine.
Understanding that what we have done or say hurt the other person, and then feeling better after apologizing is better than continuing a fight until it gets pretty ugly.
The one that is the first one to apologize in a relationship is probably the one that believes a lot into that relationship.
Apologizing shouldn’t become a habit.
It is normal to find yourself in a situation that you have caused and feel anxious wishing you could undo that. Probably, all of us find ourselves in such a situation during our relationship.
Asking for forgiveness is also a secret way of promising not to do it again. Apologizing is a second, a third or maybe a fourth chance is given to you.
A promise and another change, should not become a habit in this case.
Please don’t take for granted people that close their eyes to your mistakes. Do not overdo or over say things that can harm your partner’s feelings.
If apologizing has already become a habit, you must know, and please be aware that your relationship is not healthy and will come to an end at any time.
Take care of your relationship, and if you are not happy with it, then leave. Being forgiven will not make you feel any better if it happens on repeat. And apologizing too often will drag you into an inconvenient state of mind. Don’t hold in your shoulders any fault and don’t create one. Be kind, and try to love harder whatever you have got.