Would you date yourself knowing all of your positive and negative sides?
If there would be any possibility that you would meet someone that is exactly like you, would you date that person?
What scares us when it comes to talking about ourselves?
Have you noticed that anytime someone asks you to talk about yourself, you feel awkward?
That happens because knowing everything about yourself; you feel confused about what to tell people about you. Sometimes you don’t find any particular thing to talk to people about you.
What matters the most is that you have to learn to be proud of yourself. With whatever you have been dealing with within your life, be satisfied with it. After achieving this, you will be able to tell other people what you value the most from your personality.
When do we start knowing things about ourselves?
Most people start working on themselves only after something terrible happens to them. After a special occasion that has been shaking our world, we begin to know what we’ve been missing or what we need to start doing. We don’t usually pay attention to ourselves, trying to reach out to everyone and giving time only to people that are around us. This is the biggest mistake that we do to ourselves during life. Life happens to everyone, and we get to live it only once. If we know someone else better than we know ourselves, then what is our life about?
Some things in life happen when we less expect, and those times are precisely the moments that somehow change something inside of us. The changes that occur around us change us inside.
Would you date someone that does not know himself/herself? Would you date you at this point?
Has it ever happened to doubt your condition, your state of mind?
Like for example, you weren’t ready to start dating someone because you didn’t feel eager mentally about it. You didn’t feel prepared to have someone to share your day with, and somehow you just needed more time for yourself. But how did you manage this “time for yourself”? What did you do during that time? Went out with friends, partying, drinking going back home having a bad hangover, and then repeated? That is not how you prepare yourself for the future you want to have. Go out, have fun, party like it’s the last day of your life, but never treat this as if you need to do it because it somehow is what you want to do. Everyone enjoys having fun with friends, wearing the craziest clothes, but everyone must spare some time to create themselves. It does not require the time of your life, just a little, and it is enough.
Would you date yourself?
Be honest with yourself at this point. Nobody else knows what that beautiful mind of yours thinks and is capable of doing while in love, except you. Who is that one person that deserves to meet the best version of you, and then think about why is there only one person that deserves to see that?
Be aware of your red flags and green flags that you have and work on them without stopping. Trust me, if you are thinking on would you date yourself twice, you know you are a hard person to deal with. Go easy in life, life is short, and we got just one chance.
Always be the best version of yourself with everyone. You would be surprised to know how that affects people around you.