You have to get out of your comfort zone.
Those cozy moments while being comfortable with yourself. When you enjoyed spending time alone. Watching movies, scrolling your phone, they all at some point become boring.
Going out with friends is also a circle of your comfort zone. What about meeting new people?
Weird right? Wanting to meet new people out of nowhere is what we think is weird. Actually the really weird thing is the feeling that stands deep inside, that awkward feeling of meeting someone new. How do we plan to fight that awkwardness that drags us back into our comfort zone?
There are no tips and tricks to live life properly. But for sure there are some life hacks that make everything easier. For example, to fight the awkwardness of meeting new people.
Sometimes we choose to meet new people because we want to socialize more, know more, we try to get connected. Other times it happens by no choice and we try to avoid every inconvenient situation while doing a conversation.
Only then we can remember that the comfort zone is somehow a routine that suffocates our thoughts. It puts a limit on meeting new lines that have stayed in parallel with us. And that because we refused to meet them.
Meeting new people, in a very unconscious way, makes the whole thing about us. We spend too much time and energy rethinking what we are about to say before we say it. And being late in answering gets already uncomfortable and awkward for both sides. It is then we start analyzing ourselves from head to toe. Thinking if the other person is already judging you by your appearance and then your body language. At this point, you regret wearing too much or less. As for body language, we are so sure it already expressed our anxieties.
Sometimes meeting new people “by accident” means not talking much. Not asking much because our comfort zone does not want us to tell much for ourselves either.
A life hack to break down your comfort zone and awkwardness about people around you. The ones that you have never met before, stop making the whole point about yourself.
Remember for the other person you are also an unknown human being. That is about to break down the walls of their comfort zone too.
By keeping this in mind you know that every person in that circle. You will feel more confident than before if there is panic somewhere that is only inside of your head. Set your mind free.
The fear of not being liked will still try to get us back to our comfort zone. Making us forget that it’s okay to not be liked because we at the same time do not like everyone. And for sure we are someone that someone is disliking.
Focus less on yourself and more in the person which is about not to be a stranger to you. It gives them a feeling of feeling safe in the conversation. After a very short time, both of you will know what you guys have in common. Your interest and maybe just maybe they will remind you of the feeling of comfort zone again.
Try to fill in the short silence that somehow is super loud. Especially when meeting someone for the first time, don’t try too hard either.
Make peace with yourself first. Convince yourself that the person who is standing right there has a lot of stories to share. They might change any point of view. But remember you do have stories and great things to share too.
The comfort zone will get awkward after a while, feel free to meet new people.