Don’t be a parent in your relationship. Your partner hates that.
It can be an instinct that you may give bits of advice to try to control your partner, but that is not cool.
No person alive wants to be controlled or to be told what to do and when to do it.
Please, try to relax and accept your partner the way they are.
Being a parent in a relationship
If your partner struggles to wake up on time, does not eat properly, and looks immature, deal with it.
Remind yourself that you are in a relationship with this person, not their mom, not their dad.
Being a parent in a relationship confuses your partner’s feelings and decisions.
Parenting and caring for someone are two different things.
Your partner will or might start lying to you because they will feel like you will judge and try to fix everything that your partner couldn’t. As you are this kind of person in a relationship, you are stressing your partner. And this stress leads to fights, even worse to break up.
Don’t be a “parent” in your relationship
Advising and caring for your partner is the best treat your partner is having from you. Although this should come when they need it to be served.
Keep this in mind, don’t try to push your partner on being better than they are. If you are pushing it too much, they will come to that point that they hate taking advice from you. They don’t want you to care till that point that you remind them of their parents.
Taking care of someone must feel lovely, not getting into their nerves.
How does this happen?
If you are insisting on them to rearrange their day or anything that they, somehow, are doing wrong and possibly is terrible for them, stop it. Take care of your partner as much as they need but less than a parent.
Give advice as much as they need, don’t overdo it.
Be with your partner, supporting every step. This is how you will be you and not their parents. So don’t be a “parent” in your relationship.
Everyone has their place. Make yours unique and pleasant.
You would hate to have a partner acting as your parent too
Excuse me? Aren’t you the one I wanted to share my every day with because we were both perfectly imperfect? Then, stop acting like someone you shouldn’t be.
Acting silly has no age that is supposed not to be part of our day. Moods are the ones that take us into different manners, and that is it.
You would hate some that would try to tell you how to act right, what to speak when to speak. How to laugh and when to laugh, someone who will somehow manage the way you appear to others.
Teaching you how to do these things as your parent’s job, and that should still be.
But that doesn’t mean that at every part of your life, you will need someone to watch after you, telling you what to do.
We never grow up enough to understand what we should be doing. We never grow up enough to know how we should react in every situation. And that is okay.